释怀仇恨，莫陷于憎

How to Forget Someone You Really HateNot being able to get something that bothers you out of your mind can be very annoying! It can be doubly annoying if that something is thoughts about someone you hate. Wouldn’t it be better if you could forget that person, and so free yourself from these thoughts?

It is often said that love and hate are the two sides of the same coin, and although love may seem too strong an emotion to consider having for a person you hate, there is often an emotional attachment that stops you from just letting go of all thoughts and feelings, as you would for someone you didn’t care about. So, how to forget someone that you have such strong emotions about?

诸多烦恼事困于脑中着实纠缠人心!况那烦事又为憎恨之情，痛苦便加倍袭来。若要释怀灵魂，何不忘却仇家，泯掉恨意?

常言道：爱憎乃铜币两面，过于炙热的爱无法给予憎恨之人，且粘滞的情感又会阻挠众人幸免于尘世，即便那情感关乎无关痛痒之人。如此这般，竟要怎样才能忘却那揪心的厌恶人?

Lose the Hate.

To forget someone you really hate requires taking the emotion out of the equation. Hate is a strong emotion and when focus is put on it the mind believes and accepts it as real, and the more real it feels the more time you will find yourself focusing on it. Emotions are created by the thoughts we have, but thoughts are not necessarily facts: we choose which thoughts we accept as being true. Be mindful of the negative thoughts you have for that person, and when you become aware of them entering your mind, allow them to pass, without engaging with them. With practice this will become a subconscious action, requiring no conscious awareness or cognitive effort.

卸去恨意

想要摆脱仇恨得需摆脱感情的禁锢。恨，乃是一种强烈的情感，若过于认真，它将会钻入骨髓，食人心骨，你若越执拗，它便越往深处钻。情感皆生于意念，但意念却非真正诱因：主导选择何种意念的核心是我们自己。留意你对他人的怨念，敞开心胸，宽恕他人，切勿执意怀恨。长此一来，无需认知和领悟，潜意识尚会加深。

Question Your Behavior.

Why do you hate the person? Have they really done something so abhorrent that it entitles you to bestow such a strong emotion on them? Or, is it possible that the hate is more a result of where you are in your world? Are you a happy person, easy going and laid back, or are you quick-tempered, easily annoyed, and always ready for a fight? If the latter sounds like you, then maybe the problem is more about your behavior, beliefs and interpretations to what happens around you, and less about the other person. Changing the way you react may help resolve your feelings towards the other person, making it easier to move on, and forget about them.

自我解析

恨缘何而起?那人做了何种罪恶之事，以致你将此沉重情绪加之于他?亦或你的世界原本就只有仇恨?你是乐观通达之人?还是易怒焦躁