marriage课文翻译
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1 “Conventional people,” says Mr. Bertrand Russell, “like to pretend that
difficulties in regard to marriage are a new thing.” I could not help wondering, as I read this sentence, where one can meet these conventional people who think, or pretend to think, as conventional people do. I have known hundreds of conventional people, and I cannot remember one of them who thought the things conventional people seem to think. They were all, for example, convinced that marriage was a state beset with difficulties, and that these difficulties were as old, if not as the hills, at least as the day on which Adam lost a rib and gained a wife. A younger generation of conventional people has grown up in recent years, and it may be that they have a rosier conception of marriage than their ancestors; but the conventional people of the Victorian era were under no illusions on the subject. Their cynical attitude to marriage may be gathered from the enthusiastic reception they gave to Punch?s advice to those about to marry - “Don?t.”
2 I doubt, indeed, whether the horrors of marriage were ever depicted more
cruelly than during the conventional nineteenth century. The comic papers and music-halls made the miseries a standing dish. “You can always tell whether a man?s married or single from the way he?s dressed,” said the comedian. “Look at the single man: no buttons on his shirt. Look at the married man: no shirt.” The humour was crude; but it went home to the honest Victorian heart. If marriage were to be judged by the songs conventional people used to sing about it in the music-halls, it would seem a hell mainly populated by twins and leech-like mothers-in-law. The rare experiences of Darby and Joan were, it is true, occasionally hymned, reducing strong men smelling strongly of alcohol to reverent silence; but, on the whole, the audience felt more normal when a comedian came out with an anti-marital refrain such as:
O why did I leave my little back room In Bloomsbury,
Where I could live on a pound a week In luxury
(I forget the next line). But since I have married Maria,
I?ve jumped out of the frying-pan Into the blooming fire.
3 No difficulties? Why, the very nigger-minstrels of my boyhood used to open
their performance with a chorus which began:
Married! Married! O pity those who?re married. Those who go and take a wife must be very green.
4 It is possible that the comedians exaggerated, and that Victorian wives were not
all viragos with pokers, who beat their tipsy husbands for staying out too late. But at least they and their audiences refrained from painting marriage as an inevitable Paradise. Even the clergy would go no farther than to say that marriages were made in Heaven. That they did not believe that marriage necessarily ended there is shown by the fact that one of them wrote a “best-seller” bearing the title How to Be Happy Though Married.
5 I doubt, indeed, whether common opinion in any age has ever looked on
marriage as an untroubled Paradise. I consulted a dictionary of quotations on the subject and discovered that few of the opinions quoted were rose-coloured. These opinions, it may be objected, are the opinions of unconventional people, but it is also true that they are opinions treasured and kept alive by conventional people. We have the reputed saying of the henpecked Socrates, for example, when asked whether it was better to marry or not: “Whichever you do, you will repent.” We have Montaigne writing: “It happens as one sees in cages. The birds outside despair of ever getting in; those inside are equally desirous of getting out.” Bacon is no more prenuptial with his caustic quotation: “He was reputed one of the wise men that made answer to the question when a man should marry: ?A young man not yet; an elder man not at all.?” Burton is far from encouraging! “One was never married, and that?s his hell; another is, and that?s his plague.” Pepys scribbled in his diary: “Strange to say what delight we married people have to see these poor folk decoyed into our condition.”
6 The pious Jeremy Taylor was as keenly aware that marriage is not all bliss.
“Marriage,” he declared, “hath in it less of beauty and more of safety than the single life - it hath more care but less danger; it is more merry and more sad; it is fuller of sorrows and fuller of joys.” The sentimental and optimistic Steele can do no better than: “The marriage state, with and without the affection suitable to it, is the completest image of Heaven and Hell we are capable of receiving in this life.” 7 Rousseau denied that a perfect marriage had ever been known. “I have often
thought,” he wrote, “that if only one could prolong the joy of love in marriage we should have paradise on earth. That is a thing which has never been hitherto.” Dr. Johnson is not quoted in the dictionary; but everyone will remember how, devoted husband though he was, he denied that the state of marriage was natural to man. “Sir,” he declared, “it is so far from being natural for a man and woman to live in a state of marriage that we find all the motives which they have for remaining in that connexion and the restraints which civilised society imposes to prevent separation are hardly sufficient to keep them together.”
8 When one reads the things that have been said about marriage from one
generation to another, one cannot but be amazed at the courage with which the young go on marrying. Almost everybody, conventional and unconventional, seems to have painted the troubles of marriage in the darkest colours. So pessimistic were the conventional novelists of the nineteenth century about marriage that they seldom dared to prolong their stories beyond the wedding bells. Married people in plays and novels are seldom enviable, and, as time goes on, they seem to get more and more miserable. Even conventional people nowadays enjoy the story of a thoroughly unhappy marriage. It is only fair to say, however, that in modern times we like to imagine that nearly everybody, single as well as married, is unhappy. As social reformers we are all for happiness, but as thinkers and aesthetes we are on the side of misery.
9 The truth is that we are a difficulty-conscious generation. Whether or not we
make life even more difficult than it would otherwise be by constantly talking about our difficulties I do not know. I sometimes suspect that half our difficulties are imaginary and that if we kept quiet about them they would disappear. Is it quite certain that the ostrich by burying his head in the sand never escapes his pursuers? I look forward to the day when a great naturalist will discover that it is to this practice that the ostrich owes his survival.
marriage翻译
婚 姻
罗伯特·林德
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伯特兰·罗素先生说:“凡人百姓喜欢假装说婚姻中遇到的困难是新鲜事。”当我读到这句话的时候,不禁觉得奇怪:上哪儿去找这些像凡人百姓那样思考、或假装那样思考的凡人百姓。我认识数以百计的凡人百姓,我想不起来他们当中任何人看似有那些凡人百姓的想法。举例来说吧,他们都坚信,婚姻是一种充满困扰的状态,这些困扰即使不像山脉那样古老,也如同上帝从亚当身上取下一根肋骨给他创造一个妻子的历史那么古老。近年来,新一代凡
人百姓成长了起来,可能他们对婚姻的想法比先祖来得美好,但维多利亚时代的凡人百姓对这个问题不抱任何幻想。《笨拙》杂志给那些即将步入婚姻殿堂的人们的建议是“别结婚”,而他们对此建议反响热烈,由此可以看出他们对于婚姻的愤世嫉俗的态度。
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传统的19世纪对于恐怖婚姻的描写异常残酷,我真怀疑有没有出其右者。漫画报纸和音乐厅的表演将婚姻的苦难作为永恒不变的话题。“你总是很容易从一个男人的穿着打扮看出他是否已婚,”喜剧演员如是说。“你看那些单身汉:他们衬衫上没有纽扣。看看那些已婚人士:他们索性不穿衬衫。”这种幽默很粗鄙,但深得维多利亚时代的诚实人士赞许。假如婚姻用传统人士在音乐厅里过去经常唱的歌来衡量,那么婚姻就像地狱,主要由双胞胎和如同水蛭一般恶毒的岳母或婆婆组成。生活平淡但彼此恩爱的老夫妻并不多见,然而,这样的故事如果偶尔在歌中吟唱,倒是会令满嘴酒气的硬汉肃然起敬。这一点是毫无疑问的。但总体说来,观众们如果看到一位喜剧演员唱着反婚姻的副歌出现会觉得比较正常。歌曰:
哦,为何我离开位于 布卢姆斯伯里的小房间, 那里我一周只花费区区一英镑 便可丰衣足食 (下一行我忘了。) 但自从我娶了玛丽亚, 我跳出油锅 又落入熊熊火坑。 3
没有困难吗?你看,我小时候的黑人歌手们通常以一首合唱开始表演。这首歌开头是这样的:
结了婚!结了婚!哦,可怜那些结了婚的。 那些去找老婆的人可真青涩。
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有可能这些喜剧演员夸张了,有可能维多利亚时代的悍妇们并不都是挥舞着拨火棍教训深夜迟归、醉生梦死的老公的。但至少这些喜剧演员和他们的观众不会将婚姻描绘成无人可免的人间天堂。即使是教士们最多也就会说婚姻只应天上有。他们当中的一员甚至写了一本题为《如何身陷婚姻却依然快乐》的.畅销书,这便说明他们不相信夫妻一定会在幸福天堂白头终老。
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我真的怀疑是否有哪个时代的普遍观点视婚姻为万事顺利的天堂。我查阅了一本关于婚姻的引语词典,几乎没发现有什么乐观的看法。也许有反对意见说,这些看法来自那些不循规蹈矩的人们,但确定的是这些观点被传统人士视若珍宝。比方说,怕老婆的苏格拉底被问及到底结婚好还是不结好,他留下了著名的论断:“无论结不结婚,你都会后悔。”蒙田曾写道:“看看鸟笼就知道是什么情况了。外面的鸟因为不能飞进鸟笼而充满绝望;里面的鸟也同样渴望飞出去。”培根同样也不支持结婚。他曾尖刻地写道:“昔有智者答人问何时可婚,曾云:?青年未到时,老年不必矣。?”伯顿的说法也很让人沮丧:“张三没结婚,像呆在地狱里;李四结了婚,生活在灾祸中。”佩皮斯在日记中信笔写道:“说来也怪,我们这些已婚人士看到那些可怜的家伙像我们一样被诱进婚姻这个火坑时,我们是多么高兴啊。”
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虔诚的杰瑞米·泰勒也同样深刻认识到婚姻并不都是好事。他宣称:婚姻比单身生活少一份美感,却多一份安全感——它有更多的关心,却减少了风险;它令人更加快乐也更加伤心;它充满了更多的悲哀,也充满了更多的欢乐。多愁善感又乐观的斯梯尔说得最好的就是这句话:“婚姻状态,无论有没有与其相适的爱恋,提供了我们此生能接收到的天堂和地狱的最完整形象。”
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卢梭否认完美婚姻的存在。“我常想,”他写道,“假如我们能在婚姻中延续爱情的快乐,我们将在人间找到天堂。迄今为止这样的情形都不存在。”在这本引语词典中我们找不到约翰逊博士说的话,但谁都记得,尽管他是个尽职的丈夫,但他却否认婚姻状态对人来说是自然的。“先生,”他说,“要让一个男人和一个女人生活在婚姻的状态中,根本不是一件自然的事情,我们发现能让他们保持这种关系的各种动力以及文明社会强加于他们的种种约束,都不足以保证他们厮守终生。”
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当人们读完世世代代关于婚姻的一切评论后,看到年轻人依然奋不顾身结婚的勇气,不禁感慨万千。几乎所有人,凡夫俗子也罢,超凡脱俗者也罢,几乎都用最灰暗的笔调来描绘婚姻的种种困扰。19世纪传统小说家对婚姻如此悲观,以至于他们几乎不敢把故事延续到婚礼钟声敲响之后。戏剧与小说中的已婚人士极少有令人艳羡者,而且随着斗转星移,他们的命运似乎越来越悲惨。即便是今天的凡夫俗子对完全不幸福的婚姻故事也喜闻乐见。但是只有这样说才公平,那就是,当今时代我们喜欢想象几乎每个人,无论结婚与否,都是不幸福的。作为社会改革家,我们支持婚姻会给人们带来幸福,但作为思想家和审美家,我们更认同婚姻充满了痛苦。
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真实情况是,我们都是对困难敏感的一代。是不是我们不断谈论我们的困难就会真的使生活更加雪上加霜?这一点我不得而知。我有时怀疑我们一半的困难都是想象出来的,如果我们住嘴的话,这些困难就烟消云散了。鸵鸟永远不可能通过把头埋在沙子里来逃避追逐者,是否的确如此呢?我期待有朝一日,某位伟大的博物学家会发现,鸵鸟多亏了这种做法才活下来。